Calm the stress response
We help your nervous system come down out of survival mode so your body can begin to repair.
For professionals carrying work, family, and the loss of someone they love
Grief is heavy enough. Your health shouldn't break under it too.
Root-cause functional medicine and steady guidance through every season of loss, from a family physician who has walked this road himself. Twice.
Fully virtual care, based in San Antonio, Texas
What no one tells you about grief
Grief doesn't stay in your heart. It moves into your sleep, your appetite, your focus, and your body.
Sleep that won't come
Exhausted all day, wide awake at night.
Running on empty
No appetite, no energy, nothing left in the tank.
A mind that won't focus
Planning the next hour feels hard, let alone the next year.
Your body pushing back
Headaches, digestive trouble, and aches that weren't there before.
Roles that changed overnight
Caregiver, provider, or executor, while still showing up at work.
Alone in a crowded room
Well-meaning words that somehow make the weight heavier.
If this sounds familiar, you aren't failing. You're grieving, and your body is responding to it.
Meet Dr. Bob Selvester, MD
He knows this road, because he has walked it.
Dr. Bob lost his first wife, and later his second, in the days after the births of their children. Each time he was suddenly raising his sons alone, working full time as a physician, and watching grief take a real toll on his own body.
Functional medicine is how he rebuilt his health. Today he partners with professionals grieving the loss of a loved one, so they don't have to walk through that storm alone.
- Family and functional medicine physician, former Navy family physician
- Helped write 12 VA/DoD clinical practice guidelines
- Former enterprise-level Medical Director for DoD Pharmacy
"Been there, done that. Twice."Read His Story
Why your health is at risk right now
Grief sets you up for metabolic trouble.
Losing someone you love is one of the most stressful experiences a person can go through, and health risks are known to rise in the months and years that follow. When your stress response stays switched on, it doesn't only wear down your mood. It starts to change how your body handles sleep, appetite, blood sugar, and weight.
Left alone, those changes can quietly settle into lasting problems.
Caught early, many of them don't have to.
- 1
Constant stress
Your stress system stays stuck on high alert.
- 2
Broken sleep
The overnight recovery your body depends on stops happening.
- 3
Appetite and blood sugar swings
Meals get skipped, then cravings take over, or they don't.
- 4
Gut and brain out of sync
Digestion and mood start pulling each other down.
- 5
Metabolic drift
Weight goes up or down, usually not in the direction you'd prefer, while blood pressure and inflammation creep up.
Prevention, not just repair
Preventing functional issues before they take hold
We don't wait for a diagnosis. We look for what's starting to slip and work with you to restore it early.
Rebuild the foundations
Sleep, nourishment, movement, and connection, rebuilt in a way that fits a life that has been turned upside down.
Watch what's changing
Targeted testing and regular check-ins catch drift early, before it becomes a diagnosis.
Built around your results and your life, never a generic checklist.
Anticipation
Knowing what's ahead makes it easier to walk through.
Grief comes in seasons. We call our approach anticipatory guidance: helping you see the hard stretches coming so they don't knock you flat when they arrive.
The first weeks
Survival mode, a thousand details, and very little sleep.
Shifting roles
New responsibilities at home, your family's grief, and the return to work.
The first year
Birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays that land differently now.
A new normal
Rebuilding your health, your routines, and a sense of control.
Having lived it and treated it, Dr. Bob knows what falls within the normal range of grief and what doesn't. When something is off, it gets noticed and addressed early, not months later.
"Hope wins, and some of your suffering is optional. Let's minimize that."Dr. Bob
Begin Your Journey
The Gold Community
Gold symbolizes status: a quest for understanding.
$99 / month
Simple and self-paced. Learn on your own timeline.
- Community support in a private app channel
- 72+ educational modules
- Monthly group coaching call
- Ongoing Functional Wellness & Longevity course training
- Monthly workshops & support in the app
- Able to upgrade as your journey unfolds
Educational wellness consulting available globally. Licensed clinical services available within licensed states.
The private community
You don't have to walk this alone.
The hardest part of losing someone you love is often how isolating it feels. Our private community brings together people who understand, because they've been there too. It's a place to be honest, ask questions, and find your footing alongside others.
- Members who understand loss because they're living it too
- A private place to ask questions, any time
- Live Q&As and workshops
- Courses you can come back to whenever you need them
Questions
Frequently asked questions
Who do you work with?
Professionals between about 35 and 55 who have lost a loved one and are trying to balance work, changing family roles, and their own health. Men and women are both welcome.
Is this grief counseling or therapy?
No. Our focus is your physical health and how grief is affecting it, along with practical guidance for the seasons ahead. This care works well alongside a counselor or therapist if you have one, and Dr. Bob will suggest when added support would help.
Is this a replacement for my primary care doctor?
Our functional medicine care is designed to work alongside your current doctor. For people who live in or are visiting Texas, some plans include optional Direct Primary Care, where Dr. Bob can also serve as your primary care physician.
Do you work locally or online?
Care is fully virtual, based in San Antonio, Texas. Educational wellness consulting is available globally, and licensed clinical services, including Direct Primary Care, are available to people in Texas.
How soon after a loss can I start?
Whenever you're ready. Many people find the first months are the hardest on their body, so support can begin right away. It's also never too late, even if your loss was years ago.
How do I know which plan is right for me?
That's what your call is for. We'll talk through where you are and what you need, then help you choose the level of support that fits. You can upgrade as your journey unfolds.
Is faith part of how you work?
Faith has been Dr. Bob's anchor through his own losses, and it quietly shapes the hope he brings to his patients. It's never a requirement. Whatever you believe, you'll be met with respect, honesty, and good medicine, and if faith matters to you, there's room for it in our conversations.
When you're ready
Hope wins.
The tunnel of grief is dark, but you don't have to walk it alone or feel this worn down along the way. Let's talk about your next step.
No pressure. Just a conversation.
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